March 12, 1995
A beautiful 6 lb 9 oz baby girl, with mesmerizing brown eyes was born. She cried and her mother cried. Family was excited to finally have her in their arms after nine long months, even her grandpa who was upset at first, little does grandpa know, one day he’ll be walking her down the aisle to be married.
everyone was there and excited, but where were you?
Her first birthday rolls around very quickly, she started walking at 7 months, she had the cutest laugh and the most amazing smile you’d lay eyes on. She had her own smash cake from Albertson’s and everyone just loved watching her play with the cake.
Everyone was there and happy, but where were you?
She’s four and being pulled out of school by her uncle, because it’s finally time to see her new siblings. She’s wearing her “i am a big sister shirt” and gets to hold each baby, she’s instantly in love. Once it’s time to get everyone home to be a family, things change. It was the moment she realized she would do whatever it took to save her siblings from the pain and suffering. She was four and 1/2, he touched her inappropriately and told her, “your dad said I could” so he did, She tried to scream and cry, he covered her mouth.
She was hurt, scared and searching for you, where were you?
She’s 6 now, she’s getting the twins ready for bed and is told she needs to sleep in the living room, she’s not allowed in the room. She knows what is going to happen, or at least thought she knew. She’s finally asleep and happy that tonight it won’t happen, next thing, she’s awaken by a sharp pain and a lot of blood. She’s crying and now staring her rapist in the eyes. Morning comes, and she tried to tell you, and you say to her “I don’t know what to tell you.” And you begin to hit her for lying to you. She goes to school and hides in a turtle neck shirt.
She’s alone, betrayed and unsure if life is for her, but where were you?
Now she’s 12, moms had enough of you and wants to get divorced. She’s happy as can be, she’s finally leaving her abuser and rapist, she’s about to start a new life, her, her mom and the twins. Court was set, and you owe her mom child support for three kids, and get visitation with only two. She doesn’t tell the court about the rape from your brother, but tells them about the abuse and neglect, you’re charged with that.
She 18, graduating high school and enlisted in the military, you tell her, “I want to be there, I want to be a father to you.” She tells you “you have one last chance, show up to my graduation” — she walks the stage, she’s looking upon the crowd for your face, she’s disappointed and hurt.
She made another milestone in life, that you missed, where were you?
She’s 20, she gets into a fight with her sibling, the one she said she’d go to the ends of the world for, they argue hard, words are said that shouldn’t of been said, but it brings her back to when you told her to kill herself, so she finally believes that it’s time. you get word she’s in the hospital due to an overdose, you actually show up, but you slap her face and say , “you’re so fucking stupid” she freaks out and your kicked out.
she realizes dying still wouldn’t make you happy. She just wants a father who cares for her, but where were you?
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I’m 24 now father, you missed my birthday, as usual, but that okay because I finally stopped asking where you were. I finally realized I do not need you. I realized the ones I needed where always there, since the day I took my first and almost my last breath. I’m getting married in a few short months, and this man has taken all that you’ve given me, and help me mold myself into a new person and give me my life back. I promised him, that he would never meet you, and he never wanted to — the only time I said that he would possibly meet you would be if someone is dead or dying. After losing my grandma in April of 2018, look who showed up, he wanted to punch you in the face and I wanted to avoid you. Instead, I was mature, said hi and gave you a hug, what did you do? You slapped my face in a “friendly” manner, and my fiancé said he’s never seen me flinch so hard until that moment. I have days where my PTSD hits me, between you and your brother. I know I haven’t spoke to you since I lost my grandma, I don’t know where you are or how you are, but you never cared for me, why should I? Difference between you and me, I was raised to treat everyone with respect regardless how their impact on the world has been. I hope one day these words find you, if they never do, at least the world finally has these words, not just my mind.
Sincerely,
Larissa